I’m Slowly Learning Effort Will Make Or Break A Relationship

In the early stages of a relationship, you don’t want to be stuck doing all the work. You don’t want to be the only one initiating texts. The only one planning dates. The only one getting dressed up. The only one who seems to give a shit.

But that doesn’t end once you’re in a relationship.

Even though you might get comfortable with a person you’ve been dating for years, even though you might feel like you don’t have to try when you’re together because you love each other naturally, that doesn’t mean you’re allowed to get lazy. That doesn’t mean you should stop planning dates, stop sending cute texts, stop making an effort.

Putting in effort will make your person feel loved and appreciated. It will remind them how much you care. It will show them that, no matter how much time passes, you are always going to be there for them. You are always going to treat them as special as the day when you first met.

Meanwhile, a lack of effort will make your person feel unloved, unwanted, unappreciated. It will make them question whether you still want to be with them or whether you’ve grown bored of them. It might even make them question whether they made the right decision in picking you. It might make them have regrets.

Even though your person should know how you feel after years of dating, that isn’t an excuse to stop saying those three little words or stop dropping compliments or stop surprising them randomly throughout the week.

Building a relationship with someone requires a lot of work — but so does maintaining a relationships with someone.

You can’t cut down on the romance as soon as you’re in a committed relationship because you feel like you’re finished, like your work is over, like they aren’t going to leave so there’s no point in spoiling them anymore. You should be spoiling each other because you love each other. Because you want each other to be happy.

I’m slowly learning effort can make or break a relationship. Even though it’s natural to stop trying so hard once someone becomes a permanent part of your world, you should never take them for granted. You should never stop appreciating them. You should never treat them like an afterthought since you’re confident they aren’t going anywhere.

Over the course of your relationship, there might be periods when you’re overwhelmed with work or distracted by family issues or caught up with other responsibilities that are thrown at you, and that’s okay. That’s bound to happen. But overall, you should always keep your relationship high on your list of priorities. You should do your best to assure your partner your feelings haven’t changed, you’re just as crazy about them now as you were at the start.

It doesn’t matter if you’ve been together for three weeks, three months, three years, or three decades. You should still be putting effort into your relationship — and your partner should be doing the same. TC mark

Young Tribune
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